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My male friend and I have both had marital problems for a while. We started to meet at lunch to be a source of Christian support for each other. However, somehow, something more happened. While we haven’t been physically intimate, we’ve confessed physical feelings for each and have even admitted to having fantasies of being together as a couple in the future. We find ourselves sneaking to meet, and lying to our spouses about it. Have we just let the attraction thing get out of control, and we can just now step back and make it go away? Is there any chance of maintaining our friendship on a platonic level, after having confessed such things to each other? How do we make this right in God’s eyes? Should we confess these feelings to our spouses, even though nothing physical occurred?
Your first big mistake was choosing to get “Christian support” by meeting one-on-one with someone of the opposite sex. Trust us when we say that is never a good idea. Never! In Proverbs 4:23 we are told, “Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything you do.” Meeting with an opposite sex person under the rationalization of Christian support is an almost guaranteed set-up for the trap you have fallen into.
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